Monday, March 10, 2008

How to Seduce a Man: Your Looks

"Oooook... here comes a male advice on how should a girl look like... yikes!", you say. Yes, I am now going to tell you how to pump up your boobs like a Baywatch starlet and let your thongs peek 6 inches out of the back of your low rise jeans. No, I am just kidding.

Most girls I have spoke with have the wrong picture about men, when it comes to their opinion about female looks. They see us like Palaeolithic sapiens monkeys who get their saliva-leaking jaws open at the very sight of a female buttock or a breast. This is only a partial truth. Furthermore, many girls enhance their looks in a way that only impresses other females, not men. This is the mistake number 1 when it comes to female looks, so I will now try to explain.



Although not all humans are visual types, looks are the most important for the first impression. Some men are more impressed by words or touching than looks, and this works later. So what is it that they want to see, then? Well, if you need an answer on how to seduce a man, its not about the sexy outfit. You want to seduce him, not to give him a hard-on.

What's the difference? Well, most mature and strong men are not seduced only by your looks. They may instantly approach you and express they sexual interest, and this is honest, but that doesn't mean they are seduced. Seduction comes later, your looks will give you just a chance to seduce him. So looks are important, but remember that is only the entry ticket to a hallway of his life. From there on, other things will decide if you'll step to the main room or back to the front door.

Now here is the male advice, girls: Yes, you should wear sexy, but not slutty. Make a difference. Draw the line. I am telling you: If you look too sexual, most men of worth will think "Ok, there's nothing hidden, nothing mysterious about this girl". You can still seduce him later, even if perceived as a cheap slut at first, but you will need to spend more time and energy then, why not go the easier way?

The easiest way will be to look sexy, but with a style. And stylish doesn't mean unattractive! Most girls know that they should not look too sexual, and I see them all making the same mistake: wearing some unattractive "stylish looking" designer clothes which make them look more like a transsexual hippy than a girl. Don't do that, girls. Be more sexual! Forget about the brands and their stories; there are some archetypic clothing details that work all the time.

First of all: heels. Every female leg on this planet looks better wearing heels. It gives instant femininity. Men love to see heels, women love to see heels, we all love them, but not all girls wear them. Why, for God's sake? You want to be different? Great! Being different is the key to seduction, but not being different by wearing granma's shoes! Personally I get very angry when I see a girl reducing her femininity by wearing some strange thingies on their foot, because "that's cool". This doesn't mean you should wear heels all the time, there are other options, but use them whenever it's appropriate. Yes, I know the feet problems that might arise with wearing heels, but just get used to it - it's worth a little effort.

A man writing tips to girls on how to seduce a man. Are you kidding me?

Let me explain.

Back in the days when I started dating, I went into it with thoughts like "Women are evil, women are devils", pretty normal for a 15-year old boy. Eventually, I became more and more comfortable with women, realizing they are far from hellish creatures. Nowadays I see them like scared, petite birds, pretty lost in this world, looking for protection. Even the most gorgeous girl out there is unsure of herself, with all the makeup and shiny thingies dangling all around her tiny body.

I have been with all kinds of girls - more or less beautiful, intelligent, well-shaped, wealthy... some of them seemed like queens of the heavens to the rest of the planet. I had a plenty of deep long-night conversations with them, and their female friends too. The talk was about male-to female relationships, seduction, and all the problems they have had in the past. From these stories and confessions, I now know they all have the same problem: How to seduce a man of their dreams, and also how to keep him.

Nowadays I have stopped bouncing from one relationship into another; there is a special girl sitting in the room next to me, and I enjoy spending time with her, even doing nothing. But then I realize there are a lot of nice females out there who just want to be happy with her mr. right. And I know I can help them. I learned everything about the female brains, and I was born with a male one, so I guess that rounds the equation.

I have seen the books some of my girlfriends were reading. These were the titles like "Man Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus", bestsellers like these... and browsing some of these I found these books are fun to read, but they give girls few actual tips on how to seduce a man.

I have successfully taught guys, my friends, how to behave with women, how to approach them, and to seduce them. These conversations led to various results, from one night stands to beautiful marriages, whatever they wanted to do. And now I have the urge to do the same with women of the world, since I think girls are beautiful creatures and every one of them deserve to be happy.

I think blogging about it is the best way to start, and your comments are highly appriciated.