Last night I asked my girlfriend for a few tips on how to seduce a man, so I could write about them on my blog. She has never been without a boyfriend for more than 2 hours, so I guess she could be perceived as seductive.
So here are her tips:
1. Think about something beautiful all the time and man will fall in love with you like crazy. Think about a baby waving its leggies, a crowded yacht party, a mojito in the evening, whatever makes you go wow. And men will go wow. (I sure did when I saw her)
2. Dress always the best things you have! Do not wear the second best item in your collection. Wear the best one! Girls often make a mistake when they buy a very nice piece of fashion. They put in in the closet, tommorow they open the same closet and say something like: "Gosh, I'll wear this other dress 'cause I don't wanna wear this one new out." Stupid!
3. Educate yourself. Read something. At least Wikipedia. You must have a subject of interest, read something about it. When the converstaion comes, you can always use the things you know to fill up boring first date conversations with life. Life is not about shopping and TV series, learn something about photography, or history. You will be noticed.
That's from my girl, Panama. Kisses from her to you :)
Robert
Monday, May 19, 2008
Monday, May 5, 2008
How to talk to men - seductive talking
The big question - on everyone's lips is: "What does he want to hear?"
Men are primary visual types when it comes to opposite sex and attraction, but your words could be more seductive than you think. I think you girls are looking for "the MAN", not "a man", right?
Well, the MAN is most likely a guy who has been with al kinds of great-looking women. Gorgeous blondes, seductive brunettes, all races, beautiful shaped bodies... and he is probably fed up with that. That's me for example. A boom looking woman today is not enough for me, at least not like when I was 16. Real men need something more. So, there is the second weapon - your tongue. And not for licking and kissing, but to speak. But be careful, and read my giudelines, since without them, your tongue is more likely to cause disaster than intimacy between you two.
1. Mirror his mood and talking style. This is pure psychology. If he is slow and calm, keep that mood and pace his movement. If he is packed with energy and speaks 200 miles per hour, try to follow. The mood of your man on a date may not be his usual behaviour; it could be just a "first date" effect, as we all tend to behave a bit different on a date than with our friends - this is natural. But just reflect his mood, whatever it is. If he starts to reflect a bit of yours, that's great, but that still doesn't mean he's falling in love with you - some people naturally mirror the mood of their dialogue partner.
2. Do not mention diets, fitness plans or cosmetics. This is where most girls fail miserably. I know ALL the girls are insecure; even the most gorgeous looking girls will find some part of their body they don't like. I really cannot explain this female behaviour. But - for God's sake - do NOT speak about your plans to lose 20 pounds by midnight on March 17th. It's a big turn-off for men. You will present yourself as a person who doesn't like herself, oh boy, now is that seductive? You would fall in love with a man who likes his life and himself, right? Well the same is true for the other side.
3. Ex boyfriends. This is a dangerous topic. Basically, you should avoid mentioning them without reason. But, if he asks, answer with style. Tell him that you had a boyfriend, or a few of them (do not mention more than 3, even if it's not true). Do not mention one-night stands. If he puts you in the "One night stands" folder, it's very hard to move from there anywhere other than trash. Trust me, I am a guy with guy friends.
4. Clothes and other female topics are forbidden. It's a simple logic. Would you like a man to speak about football, hardware, or politics? Avoid shopping, fashion, spiritual healing, and other strictly female topics.
5. "Most of my female friends are married and have kids" - This is where many guys lost interest in a girl on a first date (including me). Please stay MILES away from this topic. It litteraly says that you want to get married with the first guy ahead. Men do like marriage, but definitely not with a complete stranger. It's somehow the same as girls like sex, but with not with a complete stranger (except in their fantasies).
6. Leave your cell phone off. Nobody wants do date a busy female enterpreneur, this is definitely not a man's dream. Nevertheless, you could type one text message during the date (say something like "I have to answer a message, just a second please"), since this leaves him out a bit of mystery - maybe he's not the only one interested in you, and this chance may soon expire. Great. But do not exaggerate and send 3 or more messages, then it's too obvious. One message is the best.
7. Show your vulnerability. This is where the seduction comes. Most men fall in love with a girl who is unprotected and need help. Men do not like succesuful, strong, and independent women, so if you happen to be one, maybe the best thing is not to mention it! This is vital, girls. I know you look for these signs in men, but trust me, we do not seek the same in women.
I will write more about this topic, but these are the most important tips on how to talk to men. Try them out and see the results.
All the best from Robert!
Men are primary visual types when it comes to opposite sex and attraction, but your words could be more seductive than you think. I think you girls are looking for "the MAN", not "a man", right?
Well, the MAN is most likely a guy who has been with al kinds of great-looking women. Gorgeous blondes, seductive brunettes, all races, beautiful shaped bodies... and he is probably fed up with that. That's me for example. A boom looking woman today is not enough for me, at least not like when I was 16. Real men need something more. So, there is the second weapon - your tongue. And not for licking and kissing, but to speak. But be careful, and read my giudelines, since without them, your tongue is more likely to cause disaster than intimacy between you two.
1. Mirror his mood and talking style. This is pure psychology. If he is slow and calm, keep that mood and pace his movement. If he is packed with energy and speaks 200 miles per hour, try to follow. The mood of your man on a date may not be his usual behaviour; it could be just a "first date" effect, as we all tend to behave a bit different on a date than with our friends - this is natural. But just reflect his mood, whatever it is. If he starts to reflect a bit of yours, that's great, but that still doesn't mean he's falling in love with you - some people naturally mirror the mood of their dialogue partner.
2. Do not mention diets, fitness plans or cosmetics. This is where most girls fail miserably. I know ALL the girls are insecure; even the most gorgeous looking girls will find some part of their body they don't like. I really cannot explain this female behaviour. But - for God's sake - do NOT speak about your plans to lose 20 pounds by midnight on March 17th. It's a big turn-off for men. You will present yourself as a person who doesn't like herself, oh boy, now is that seductive? You would fall in love with a man who likes his life and himself, right? Well the same is true for the other side.
3. Ex boyfriends. This is a dangerous topic. Basically, you should avoid mentioning them without reason. But, if he asks, answer with style. Tell him that you had a boyfriend, or a few of them (do not mention more than 3, even if it's not true). Do not mention one-night stands. If he puts you in the "One night stands" folder, it's very hard to move from there anywhere other than trash. Trust me, I am a guy with guy friends.
4. Clothes and other female topics are forbidden. It's a simple logic. Would you like a man to speak about football, hardware, or politics? Avoid shopping, fashion, spiritual healing, and other strictly female topics.
5. "Most of my female friends are married and have kids" - This is where many guys lost interest in a girl on a first date (including me). Please stay MILES away from this topic. It litteraly says that you want to get married with the first guy ahead. Men do like marriage, but definitely not with a complete stranger. It's somehow the same as girls like sex, but with not with a complete stranger (except in their fantasies).
6. Leave your cell phone off. Nobody wants do date a busy female enterpreneur, this is definitely not a man's dream. Nevertheless, you could type one text message during the date (say something like "I have to answer a message, just a second please"), since this leaves him out a bit of mystery - maybe he's not the only one interested in you, and this chance may soon expire. Great. But do not exaggerate and send 3 or more messages, then it's too obvious. One message is the best.
7. Show your vulnerability. This is where the seduction comes. Most men fall in love with a girl who is unprotected and need help. Men do not like succesuful, strong, and independent women, so if you happen to be one, maybe the best thing is not to mention it! This is vital, girls. I know you look for these signs in men, but trust me, we do not seek the same in women.
I will write more about this topic, but these are the most important tips on how to talk to men. Try them out and see the results.
All the best from Robert!
Monday, March 10, 2008
How to Seduce a Man: Your Looks
"Oooook... here comes a male advice on how should a girl look like... yikes!", you say. Yes, I am now going to tell you how to pump up your boobs like a Baywatch starlet and let your thongs peek 6 inches out of the back of your low rise jeans. No, I am just kidding.
Most girls I have spoke with have the wrong picture about men, when it comes to their opinion about female looks. They see us like Palaeolithic sapiens monkeys who get their saliva-leaking jaws open at the very sight of a female buttock or a breast. This is only a partial truth. Furthermore, many girls enhance their looks in a way that only impresses other females, not men. This is the mistake number 1 when it comes to female looks, so I will now try to explain.
Although not all humans are visual types, looks are the most important for the first impression. Some men are more impressed by words or touching than looks, and this works later. So what is it that they want to see, then? Well, if you need an answer on how to seduce a man, its not about the sexy outfit. You want to seduce him, not to give him a hard-on.
What's the difference? Well, most mature and strong men are not seduced only by your looks. They may instantly approach you and express they sexual interest, and this is honest, but that doesn't mean they are seduced. Seduction comes later, your looks will give you just a chance to seduce him. So looks are important, but remember that is only the entry ticket to a hallway of his life. From there on, other things will decide if you'll step to the main room or back to the front door.
Now here is the male advice, girls: Yes, you should wear sexy, but not slutty. Make a difference. Draw the line. I am telling you: If you look too sexual, most men of worth will think "Ok, there's nothing hidden, nothing mysterious about this girl". You can still seduce him later, even if perceived as a cheap slut at first, but you will need to spend more time and energy then, why not go the easier way?
The easiest way will be to look sexy, but with a style. And stylish doesn't mean unattractive! Most girls know that they should not look too sexual, and I see them all making the same mistake: wearing some unattractive "stylish looking" designer clothes which make them look more like a transsexual hippy than a girl. Don't do that, girls. Be more sexual! Forget about the brands and their stories; there are some archetypic clothing details that work all the time.
First of all: heels. Every female leg on this planet looks better wearing heels. It gives instant femininity. Men love to see heels, women love to see heels, we all love them, but not all girls wear them. Why, for God's sake? You want to be different? Great! Being different is the key to seduction, but not being different by wearing granma's shoes! Personally I get very angry when I see a girl reducing her femininity by wearing some strange thingies on their foot, because "that's cool". This doesn't mean you should wear heels all the time, there are other options, but use them whenever it's appropriate. Yes, I know the feet problems that might arise with wearing heels, but just get used to it - it's worth a little effort.
Most girls I have spoke with have the wrong picture about men, when it comes to their opinion about female looks. They see us like Palaeolithic sapiens monkeys who get their saliva-leaking jaws open at the very sight of a female buttock or a breast. This is only a partial truth. Furthermore, many girls enhance their looks in a way that only impresses other females, not men. This is the mistake number 1 when it comes to female looks, so I will now try to explain.
Although not all humans are visual types, looks are the most important for the first impression. Some men are more impressed by words or touching than looks, and this works later. So what is it that they want to see, then? Well, if you need an answer on how to seduce a man, its not about the sexy outfit. You want to seduce him, not to give him a hard-on.
What's the difference? Well, most mature and strong men are not seduced only by your looks. They may instantly approach you and express they sexual interest, and this is honest, but that doesn't mean they are seduced. Seduction comes later, your looks will give you just a chance to seduce him. So looks are important, but remember that is only the entry ticket to a hallway of his life. From there on, other things will decide if you'll step to the main room or back to the front door.
Now here is the male advice, girls: Yes, you should wear sexy, but not slutty. Make a difference. Draw the line. I am telling you: If you look too sexual, most men of worth will think "Ok, there's nothing hidden, nothing mysterious about this girl". You can still seduce him later, even if perceived as a cheap slut at first, but you will need to spend more time and energy then, why not go the easier way?
The easiest way will be to look sexy, but with a style. And stylish doesn't mean unattractive! Most girls know that they should not look too sexual, and I see them all making the same mistake: wearing some unattractive "stylish looking" designer clothes which make them look more like a transsexual hippy than a girl. Don't do that, girls. Be more sexual! Forget about the brands and their stories; there are some archetypic clothing details that work all the time.
First of all: heels. Every female leg on this planet looks better wearing heels. It gives instant femininity. Men love to see heels, women love to see heels, we all love them, but not all girls wear them. Why, for God's sake? You want to be different? Great! Being different is the key to seduction, but not being different by wearing granma's shoes! Personally I get very angry when I see a girl reducing her femininity by wearing some strange thingies on their foot, because "that's cool". This doesn't mean you should wear heels all the time, there are other options, but use them whenever it's appropriate. Yes, I know the feet problems that might arise with wearing heels, but just get used to it - it's worth a little effort.
A man writing tips to girls on how to seduce a man. Are you kidding me?
Let me explain.
Back in the days when I started dating, I went into it with thoughts like "Women are evil, women are devils", pretty normal for a 15-year old boy. Eventually, I became more and more comfortable with women, realizing they are far from hellish creatures. Nowadays I see them like scared, petite birds, pretty lost in this world, looking for protection. Even the most gorgeous girl out there is unsure of herself, with all the makeup and shiny thingies dangling all around her tiny body.
I have been with all kinds of girls - more or less beautiful, intelligent, well-shaped, wealthy... some of them seemed like queens of the heavens to the rest of the planet. I had a plenty of deep long-night conversations with them, and their female friends too. The talk was about male-to female relationships, seduction, and all the problems they have had in the past. From these stories and confessions, I now know they all have the same problem: How to seduce a man of their dreams, and also how to keep him.
Nowadays I have stopped bouncing from one relationship into another; there is a special girl sitting in the room next to me, and I enjoy spending time with her, even doing nothing. But then I realize there are a lot of nice females out there who just want to be happy with her mr. right. And I know I can help them. I learned everything about the female brains, and I was born with a male one, so I guess that rounds the equation.
I have seen the books some of my girlfriends were reading. These were the titles like "Man Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus", bestsellers like these... and browsing some of these I found these books are fun to read, but they give girls few actual tips on how to seduce a man.
I have successfully taught guys, my friends, how to behave with women, how to approach them, and to seduce them. These conversations led to various results, from one night stands to beautiful marriages, whatever they wanted to do. And now I have the urge to do the same with women of the world, since I think girls are beautiful creatures and every one of them deserve to be happy.
I think blogging about it is the best way to start, and your comments are highly appriciated.
Back in the days when I started dating, I went into it with thoughts like "Women are evil, women are devils", pretty normal for a 15-year old boy. Eventually, I became more and more comfortable with women, realizing they are far from hellish creatures. Nowadays I see them like scared, petite birds, pretty lost in this world, looking for protection. Even the most gorgeous girl out there is unsure of herself, with all the makeup and shiny thingies dangling all around her tiny body.
I have been with all kinds of girls - more or less beautiful, intelligent, well-shaped, wealthy... some of them seemed like queens of the heavens to the rest of the planet. I had a plenty of deep long-night conversations with them, and their female friends too. The talk was about male-to female relationships, seduction, and all the problems they have had in the past. From these stories and confessions, I now know they all have the same problem: How to seduce a man of their dreams, and also how to keep him.
Nowadays I have stopped bouncing from one relationship into another; there is a special girl sitting in the room next to me, and I enjoy spending time with her, even doing nothing. But then I realize there are a lot of nice females out there who just want to be happy with her mr. right. And I know I can help them. I learned everything about the female brains, and I was born with a male one, so I guess that rounds the equation.
I have seen the books some of my girlfriends were reading. These were the titles like "Man Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus", bestsellers like these... and browsing some of these I found these books are fun to read, but they give girls few actual tips on how to seduce a man.
I have successfully taught guys, my friends, how to behave with women, how to approach them, and to seduce them. These conversations led to various results, from one night stands to beautiful marriages, whatever they wanted to do. And now I have the urge to do the same with women of the world, since I think girls are beautiful creatures and every one of them deserve to be happy.
I think blogging about it is the best way to start, and your comments are highly appriciated.
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